If you’ve lived in this society long enough, you’ve come to realize that there is a motto for every situation. If you lose a game, some will say “it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you played the game.” Others will tell you “winning isn’t everything; it’s the only thing.” Say what?
Seems pretty damned confusing, and that’s because it is. You can find examples of these conflicting “mottos” for most of life’s situations. If you’re not careful, you’ll float through life believing every outcome is “okay” depending on what saying you come across for whatever situation you’re in. This will leave you inconsistent, without direction, and unaccountable. Do you want to live a fulfilling, purposeful life? Or are you okay with eating whatever shit sandwich it feeds you simply “cause a man’s gotta eat”?
To avoid floating through a meaningless, misguided existence, it’s important for you to find your code. Understand what’s of importance to you, build your mission, and come to terms with what you believe you would (or wouldn’t) do to achieve it. When you wake up in the morning, what gets you out of bed? Are you motivated to work out for the purpose of “looking good for the ladies”, feeling stronger than most men, or making your body healthier so you live longer? Do you work at your job because it’s “a steady paycheck”, a path to bigger things, or going to make you filthy rich and “money never sleeps”? Do you see where I’m going with this?
If you don’t have purpose in your life’s activities, life will give you things to do to occupy your time. Time will pass, and eventually you’ll grow old and feeble without having accomplished the things you dreamt of doing when you were young. Life will pass you by quickly if you lack purpose, direction, and a mantra. That “code” you live by will help keep you on the path to the life you truly desire.
Are you the type of person who’s okay with doing anything to get ahead? If cutting corners, backstabbing, and cheating doesn’t bother you, and you plan to continue living this way, then that’s your code. “Whatever it takes”.
Do you focus more on your family life than money and social status? Does family always come first? When you make choices that puts your family ahead of all else, does it make you feel good? If so, you’re a “family is everything” guy, and that should be the code by which you build your life.
Are you results oriented, or do the life experiences matter more to you? Outcome or adventure? Which excites you more? If it’s the latter, then you’re an “enjoy the ride” kind of guy.
The point is, you can find a saying applicable to any situation, and the only way to advance towards your life goal is to remain consistent with those fundamental mantras. People who bounce back and forth between philosophies end up being indecisive and unfulfilled. They accept the results of any situation because they find comfort in some saying that tells them their outcome is “okay”.
The truly strong man knows that some outcomes are truly unacceptable. Instead of ignoring or crying over these situations, they first come to grips with the reality of their present state by comparing it against their foundational code. They accept responsibility for the results they’ve achieved, and they build a plan to avoid a similar result in the future. This is how you build the life you want. Accepting what you’re given instead of planning methods to take what you want is a sure fire way to a miserable existence. Just because someone says it’s alright doesn’t mean you should accept it. Be a man of action. Live by a code. Maximize your time on this planet. The world needs strong men.
– Your Big Bro