Take Control of Your Life With These Ten Steps
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Take Control of Your Life With These Ten Steps

Are you tired of feeling frustrated, trapped, and controlled by the circumstances of your life? Do you yearn to break free from this seemingly monotonous cycle and seize the reins of your destiny? Well, it’s time to step up and take control of your life with unyielding determination… even if you don’t see a way out.

Fellas, this isn’t just another set of guidelines—it’s a manifesto for those ready to reclaim their power, overcome their limitations, and carve out a future on their own terms. If you’re ready to break the cycle and rise to your true potential, read on. This is your blueprint for taking control of your life.

Brothers, taking control of your life requires discipline, vision, and execution. Here’s a roadmap, infused with wisdom and enriched by stories from history.

1. Awaken to The Possibilities

Know it’s possible to change. Know what’s possible for you. Feel it in your bones.

The first step to transformation is the belief that change can happen. You must internalize this belief deeply.

The fact that you’re reading this piece means your mind is open to the possibility. You may just need the right push, or the proper coaching, to get there.

Need some inspiration? Consider Roger Bannister, the first man to run a mile in under four minutes. Before he achieved this, many believed it was physically impossible. Bannister knew in his bones that he could break the barrier, and his belief changed the world’s perception of human limits.

2. Know Yourself

This includes your tendencies, wants, needs, strengths, weaknesses. Keep a journal. Look for patterns. Be honest with yourself. Confide in someone trustworthy and neutral and ask them for feedback. You cannot improve yourself if you don’t acknowledge your weaknesses.

Self-awareness is the cornerstone of self-mastery. Knowing yourself means understanding your limitations and strengths.

Benjamin Franklin, one of the Founding Fathers of the United States, kept a daily journal to track his virtues and vices. This rigorous self-examination helped him refine his character and achieve greatness.

3. Understand Your Environment

Where are the opportunities? What do you need to get there? Who in your network can help? Are there factors out of your control that may hold you back?

To navigate your journey, you must understand the terrain. This includes recognizing opportunities and building alliances.

Marcus Aurelius, a Roman Emperor, and philosopher, understood his environment deeply. He utilized his knowledge of politics, human nature, and the strengths of his allies to lead effectively and write his enduring work, “Meditations.”

4. Visualize The Life You Want

What does success look like for you? Can you actually picture it in your mind? Do you know what it’s actually comprised of? Are you able to visualize this new, totally-improved life that you claim to want?

A clear vision of your desired future acts as a guiding star. Will it into existence.

Steve Jobs envisioned a future where personal computers were an integral part of everyday life. His vision, despite numerous setbacks, revolutionized the tech industry and created the Apple empire.

5. A Man With a Plan

This is how to get there. Consider the time, budget, and skills required to get to the next level. Then, put a plan in place in order to achieve these milestones.

A goal without a plan is just a wish. Detailed planning bridges the gap between dreams and reality.

Napoleon Bonaparte, one of history’s greatest military strategists, meticulously planned his campaigns. His ability to foresee various scenarios and plan accordingly led to many of his victories.

6. Train Like Your Life Depends on It

Your plan is now in motion. Gain knowledge in a field or two. Valuable expertise is marketable and monetizable.

Continuous learning and skill development are crucial for growth.

Bruce Lee, a martial artist and philosopher, dedicated his life to training and learning. His relentless pursuit of knowledge and improvement made him a legend in martial arts and film.

7. Patience

Let’s be real: this won’t happen overnight. There will be ups and downs. Things won’t move as fast as you’d like. That’s all OK. A long as you’re making incremental improvements over time, you’re still on the right track.

Patience is not passive waiting but active persistence.

Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in prison, yet he remained patient and persistent in his fight against apartheid. His endurance and patience eventually led to the liberation of South Africa and his presidency.

8. Expect Curveballs

Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face. What happens when the plan experiences problems? Do you simply throw your hands in the air and give up? Or do you learn from these challenges, adapt, and persevere?

Flexibility and resilience are as important as planning.

Take the story of Walt Disney, a man whose name is synonymous with creativity and success. Early in his career, Disney faced a major setback when his first animation company, Laugh-O-Gram Studio, went bankrupt. Despite this crushing blow, he didn’t give up. He moved to California and started over, creating a new character named Oswald the Lucky Rabbit.

However, Disney lost the rights to Oswald due to a contract loophole, a devastating curveball that could have ended his career.

Undeterred, Disney used this experience to create Mickey Mouse, a character that brought him unprecedented success. Disney’s ability to adapt and innovate in the face of adversity laid the foundation for the entertainment empire we know today.

9. Have Backups for Everything

While you may have all the confidence in the world, and your plan may seem perfect, curveballs can throw you off track in ways you didn’t anticipate. Always have a backup plan to ensure you can continue to work towards your goals, even when things don’t go as planned.

Redundancy is a key principle in risk management.

A dramatic example of having a backup plan can be seen in space exploration. The Apollo 13 mission faced a life-threatening crisis when an oxygen tank exploded. The NASA team’s preparedness and backup systems allowed them to bring the astronauts home safely.

What does this mean for you?

For starters, start socking away some money every paycheck, so if things go south you aren’t broke. Next, consider adding multiple streams of income so you’re not totally reliant on one job. Third, diversify your skill set. Get certified as a personal trainer or real estate agent. Take up a trade. Launch a business you can run from home. Evaluate and minimize your “reliance’s”… because a truly free man is not reliant on any person, nor thing. Finally, NETWORK. The better your network is, the better your chances are that you’ll always have opportunities.

10. Hang On and Don’t Get Pulled Back into the Matrix

Don’t expect it to be easy, and anticipate some stormy weather. When things get tough, it may feel “easier” to return to the way things once were. You may find false comfort in those conditions. The key is getting comfortable with the idea of feeling uncomfortable.

Perseverance in the face of adversity separates the successful from the unsuccessful. The only way you will grow is if you keep pushing forward, even when things get tough. Never be seduced by the comfort of safety.

A prime illustration of this principle is the life of Elon Musk. Before his rise as a tech visionary, Musk had already found significant success with the sale of his first company, Zip2, and later PayPal. He could have comfortably retired with his earnings, enjoying a life of luxury and safety.

Instead, Musk chose to push his limits and tackle new, high-risk ventures. These ventures were fraught with financial and technical challenges. SpaceX faced multiple rocket launch failures, each one a potential nail in the company’s coffin. Tesla, too, experienced production hell and was on the brink of bankruptcy several times.

Despite the overwhelming odds and the tempting lure to step back into a comfortable life, Musk persevered. His relentless drive and willingness to embrace discomfort led to unprecedented advancements in space travel and electric vehicles, establishing him as one of the most influential innovators of our time.

Brothers, these steps are more than a guide—they are a philosophy for mastering your life. Embrace them, live them, and transform your potential into reality. Stay strong and focused, for the world needs steadfast men now more than ever.

-Your Big Bro