Happy New Year, buddy! As you sip your morning coffee, it’s a great opportunity to think about what it is you want to accomplish this year, and how you plan on getting there. Before we get into the power of strategic goal setting, I want to address what I believe is the 800-pound gorilla in the room (known as our society). The importance of embracing, and being, yourself. Sounds like a simple concept, but so few forget how to do it. Sadly, many never learned how. It starts with honesty; the ability to take an honest look at yourself and accept who we currently are.
We live in a world of Instagram posers, Twitter virtue signalers, holier than thou religious lunatics, LinkedIn con artists, and subservient confused sheep-like adults who live the lives they “think” they’re supposed to be living. White women pretending to be black (Rachel Dolezal) or Spanish (“Hilaria” Baldwin), black guys pretending to be beaten up in race-based attacks (Jussie Smollett), and ad tech entrepreneurs acting like they’re scientists (Bill Gates). Hundreds of millions of people worship celebrities and attempt to model their lives after what they see on TV (or Instagram). Not only do we allow for it to happen, but as a society we treat them like children and preach that we should accept everyone for what they “identify as”. I remember being four years old and pretending to be an astronaut at the family barbeque. All of the adults indulged me and went along with it… because I was a child! Why are we embracing this lunacy from adults? Fucking boggles my mind.
How many people out there are really and truly happy? What percentage of them are faking it on the exterior but miserable on the interior? Far too many. People dislike themselves so much that they are pretending to be something else. It’s just sad, and pathetic. I do recognize that many of you that follow my page are NOT the aforementioned people; you’re bold, confident and unapologetically masculine. I firmly believe men like us should take it upon ourselves to teach and mentor other guys. Change happens one person at a time, and if we all contribute to the overall goal, we can make a true impact on society. This post may not directly apply to your own self improvement, but it might assist you in helping another brother in need.
For those of you who have not experienced this awakening or transformation, I’m here to help. January first is the perfect time to begin and execute strategic goal setting for yourself. The most difficult part of this process is actually taking the time to think, analyze and identify what it is you want to improve about yourself. Yeah, you might want to make more money, but what is it that is actually holding you back from making more money? This is the hurdle we need to figure out how to jump. Oh, you want to look better naked? Cool, but what’s currently stopping you from doing that? Is it your workout routine, diet, sleep schedule, or discipline?
See what I mean? It’s time to have an honest conversation with yourself to truly understand the root of the issue. Only then can we begin the process of improving ourselves. Accept who you are now and visualize who you want to be. Many times, we walk around with this preconceived notion of who we are, but what happens if that notion is inaccurate? We never learn. We never improve. We never evolve. If you’re unhappy with something in your life, make a plan and change it. If you can’t change it, then change your mindset. What you decide to put into your head impacts your thoughts, feelings, mindset and mood. Take control over it today.
“You are what your record says you are.” – Bill Parcells
Once you’ve identified what’s holding you back. it’s time to put the goals down on paper. Make sure they are short term, measurable, and within your control. Saying “I want to lose 25 pounds” is a good long-term goal, but you need to build a short term plan with it’s own goals in order to get there. Try something like this:
- I will complete a minimum of three workouts per week, ranging from 30-45 minutes each
- I will cut down my caloric intake to 1,600 calories per day, and I will track this (MyFitnesssPal)
- I will do this by eating 3 times per day, with each meal being 500-550 calories
- I will plan my meals weekly so I am never desperately scrambling to find something to eat (here’s where you build meal plan goals)
- I will not eat anything fried, nor drink soda. I will only allow myself one cheat day per week.
- I will not drink alcohol 6 days per week. On the cheat day, I will have up to two drinks maximum. These drinks will only be scotch, wine, or beer (no mixed sugary drinks)
- I will weight myself every other day when I first wake up
Make sure you write all these down on a notepad and keep it close to your bed. When you wake up every day, re-read them. Want to hold yourself even more accountable? Tell a few close friends about it. They will keep you on track when you may be feeling weak.
Another trick? Always track your progress. I mentioned the MyFitnessPal app if health goals are your focus, but this can be done for any type of goal. Use an excel spreadsheet or a Google document to make sure you’re staying on pace.
This is how you make 2021 a better year. This is how you develop a better you. Complaining, pretending, and acting like a victim hoping for sympathy won’t get you anywhere. Taking action will.
For more tips on goal setting, shoot me an email at YourBigBro@enteringmanhood.com. Happy New Year!
-Your Big Bro
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy and inspires your hopes.” – Andrew Carnegie