What She Is Really Thinking About on the First Date

The Questions That Run Through a Woman’s Mind on a First Date

Are you looking forward to your next first date? If you are, we’re about to let you in on a massive secret that not even the best dating sites 2020 will tell you. But, before we get there, consider this familiar story that plays out for everyone who is meeting a potential partner on a first date.

You arrive on time to the agreed-on meeting point, and you see her at the counter with a drink in hand. She looks fantastic, but all you can think of is what she’ll be thinking about during those moments filled with awkward pauses. 

Many men try to get inside the woman’s mind to figure it out during a first date. How many times have you asked, “What are you thinking about” during a first date?So here’s the secret we’re about to divulge: the things women think about on a first date.

Is There a First Date Chemistry Between Us?

Trust us guys, we think about this as often as you do during the first meeting. We will think about the presence or lack of chemistry to figure out whether we will want to share a bed with you. And, when the first date goes wrong, we will think about this to evaluate whether it’s worth trying again.

The presence of chemistry will lead us to ask our friends, “Can a bad first date be fixed?” But, without any sexual chemistry, it doesn’t matter, and there’s no point in a second meeting, we’re afraid.

Is He Real or a Player?

You must have seen this one coming. Even if we had a lot of fun during a first date and we enjoyed each other’s company, there’s still that lingering question. It will most likely pop up at the end of a first date when we’re winding down and thinking about you. 

If we clicked on a first date, we’d want to know why you were too good to be true. The experiences we’ve had in bad relationships and genetic programming leave us with no choice but to evaluate who you are after a first date actively. Until you can prove otherwise, you’re too good to be true.

When Will He Text?

If you’re wondering how to first date during quarantine, this is one of the nagging questions in our heads. The first commitment with polite goodbyes usually follows thoughts about whether you will text or not. The duration of time you take to text us doesn’t matter.

The only thing that’ll keep us from thinking about when you’ll text after a first date is seeing your text on our screens. After that, we’ll obsess over what to respond and whether we will at all. 

Is His Relationship Potential?

It doesn’t matter what you think. We will think about the future of the relationship before it even begins. It doesn’t mean we’re psycho or obsessed; it only means we like to plan early. “He who fails to plan, plans to fail,” right?

Of course, we won’t let it on during conversation, but there’s no doubt that we’ll lookout for signs of you being a potential partner. We will sit with you lifting a glass of wine to our lips, but all the while, we’re thinking, “It’s almost the end of a first date; is he interested?”. 

If you ask us whether this is what we’re thinking on a first date, we will vehemently deny it. We’ll play calm and collected, but all we want to do is be in a relationship.

What Happens After the Date?

As you pick the tab or nimble on your last forkfuls, we’ll consider different scenarios of what will happen next. We will think about whether to order a cab home alone, let you walk us home, or invite you in for the night. By the time we’re leaving the meeting point after a first date, we will have considered precisely how we want the date to end.


Women are mysterious. Even after this preview, you may still not know exactly what she’s thinking on a first date. Since we’re all unique, we probably think about different things. However, this shouldn’t discourage you from a first date. The most important thing is to relax, keep the conversation flowing, and have a good time.

What are the first date questions you suppose a woman is thinking of during your date? Let’s keep the conversations going.

-Miranda Davis

Author’s bio:  

Miranda Davis is a freelance writer in the relation and psychology area. Miranda is interested in such topics as building healthy relationships between people, love/sex compatibility, and how to find the right balance in life in general. She is currently doing specific research on the topic. Miranda loves cooking and long-distance walking.